Can A Molested Child Have Problems with Relationships

Yes, they can and do have problems with relationships. Most molested children become withdrawn. They no longer trust the way they used to. They will still converse and be friendly with others, however their confidence is not what it used to be. Many times trying to get attention and approval from adults and other children.

To understand why they change, you should understand that someone in authority over them has used them for completely selfish reasons. However it is usual for persuasive manipulation rather than force to be used.

After the fact, they are most often told that bad things will happen to both of them if they say anything. This leads the child into an incredibly strong feeling of guilt that pervades everything from then on.

The child not only feels that they were complicit in the act, but that they are now responsible not only for their own security by being quiet, but the security of the one who molested them. I am sure that you can understand the twisting emotional and mental anguish that follows.

They learn to keep secrets very well even if it is to the detriment of themselves and others. If they are female, they are likely to now see the molesters partner as a threat to themselves, even if it doesn't actually make logical sense.

A molested male will withdraw, or may even become aggressive. Guilt tears them apart. They view themselves as unclean.

They have also been thrust very early into sexual awareness and actions, and this will usually manifest itself in precocious sexual behavior.

They will view others suspiciously, as they now see the world in a different way than they did.