When Your Child Is Molested, How Does It Affect A Marriage?
It all depends on who did the molesting. Is it the husband/wife involved in the molestation or was it someone else?
If it is one of the child's parents then, the other party would want to take the child away from the hands of the abuser and choose whether or not to seek a lawyer. Of course this will more than likely bring an end to your marriage.
The Age Of The Child
Is your child grown up, left home? In which case it is your choice as to whether you want to live with the person who has molested your child. If your child is young, then obviously you want to do what is best for your child by taking them to safety. If you don't do this, then do not delude yourself into thinking you are an acceptable parent. Head off and get yourself neutered now.
There are some marriage mates who chose to ignore the abuse in order to maintain their own security. This is not in the interests of the child.
Is the Abuser A Sibling
If this is the case, then the safety of the victim should come first. Both parents should do everything in their power to keep the abused one safe. Of course the parents have to make a decision of what to do with the offender and this could cause some division. However you should both sit down and discuss it.
It could cause problems in the marriage if one parent chooses one decision and another chooses differently. However the loving care and protection of the abused victim should be paramount. Also remember that whilst the care of the offending sibling is not to be ignored, they need to be dealt with in a very precise manner and the law may well need to be involved.
Is The Abuser Someone Other Than Immediate Family Members?
If so than husband and wife would work together for the safety and wellbeing of the child. It should not effect the marriage in a negative way unless one or the other is trying to protect the abuser.
When Your Father Tries To Molest You
If your father tries to molest you, get away from him. If there is an adult female in the house, you tell them immediately. If they do not believe you, or tell you not to worry about it, then tell your school councilor. They are trained for this and will help and advise you. If they do not take you seriously (very unlikely) then contact the police. Do not hesitate nor think you are doing something wrong.
If you are no longer in school, or unable to talk to them, then call Lifeline or Kids Help Line they will tell you exactly what you should do.
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