Is It Possible to Achieve Happiness After Childhood Molestation
Yes, it is, even though to any one who has been molested, it doesn't seem possible.
You'll find the answers to many of your questions on incest and child molestation no matter who the perpetrator is, on this site. Whilst this is a difficult topic to cover and discuss, it affects far too many people.
If you have been molested you are not alone. Whilst childhood sexual abuse is a subject shrouded in secrecy, you can clearly see that it is prevalent throughout the world.
There are many stories where sexually abused children have grown up to have a normal life after recovery. I was a victim of incest, and after much recovery, I now lead a happy normal life. I was molested by my biological father, through my childhood. I suffered with many of the severe emotional, physical and mental problems that plague children of incest and sexual molestation. There are many who have come through and so can you.
Talking About It
Talking about your abuse as well as your feelings is a big part of your recovery process. Most who have been abused find it very hard to talk about. This is partly due to the shame, guilt and self loathing they feel. Any one molested was also constantly told during the period of molestestation they were never to tell anyone.
All victims of childhood sexual abuse live in secrecy, and it is extremely hard to break that secrecy in adulthood. This is instilled by the molester in order to protect him/herself.
It could be done with bribes, through threats, punishment, coercion, being told "your special", "it's a special secret you both hold together".
If it's incest the child could be told "daddy will go to prison for a long time if you tell anyone" and the list goes on. A molestor will use any tactic to silence a child.
Secrecy and Statistics
This secrecy is also why it is so hard to know how many victims are out there. Even in adulthood many do not speak about their ordeal. Many look to statistics, and whilst this can give you an idea, the secrecy of child molestation makes it highly unreported. In order to compensate for this, the statistics are exaggerated, therefore making it impossible for them to be accurate.
Guilt, Shame and Self Loathing
All victims of sexual molestation carry a lot of guilt, shame and self loathing, thinking they could have stopped it any time. With time you can overcome these feelings.
Childhood sex abuse always causes emotional and mental problems. The depression you feel, will lose most of its hold over you. Some will be cured, others will become insignificant, others will leave their scar. However if you feel despondent or suicidal (get help now) it will fade with healing.
Your recovery may be slow but you will find yourself becoming more positive. As you heal you start finding the happy things in life.
You can live a happy normal life, have a great relationship and bring up children in a happy environment. You can have sex, without the aversion and flashbacks you may now have. Flashbacks, will not haunt your days and nights.
You will be able to deal with and maintain friendships which was difficult previously.
You may still have ups and downs, the sexual abuse you suffered caused your body to go through things it wasn't ready for. Your depression and the many other feelings and effects you have from being molested will not have a strong hold over you after recovery.
In other words your abuse will no longer rule your life and the gory details of your childhood will be put to rest. The face of your abuser will no longer haunt you. (This is not the same as burying your memories, before you have been through recovery.)
Closure Can Be Accomplished
Take advantage of the information on lawyers. Many sexual abuse victims have found closure through this process. So may you, if you decide to go down that path.
Choosing how you will deal with your abuser and those who did not stand by you, will also help you heal as well as bring you closure.
All of the issues above and many, many more are discussed in length throughout this site.
There is light at the end of the tunnel and you will find it.