For Victims of Child Molestation and Those Trying To Help
If you know someone who has been sexually abused as a child send them to this site.
If you are a victim of child molestation, and you are here then more than like it is because the effects of your sexual abuse is causing you (or someone you know) many problems through life. Coping day to day can be extremely difficult and painful, and most times it doesn't matter what you do, you don't feel any better.
To achieve just a moments relief feels unreachable, yet it would be welcomed even if only for a minute.
There are times when you feel it would be better if you could sleep for the duration and wake up when it's all over. That's not going to happen.
Help For Victims and Supporters
What can happen though is you can start your recovery. Read this site, there are many ways it can help you. There are resources that have been a great help to molestation victims which you will find here.
No one has a quick fix for what you are going through, not us, not a doctor, not pills, however if you are willing to work at it, you can recover. If you want to recover you need to put the effort in and utilise the wealth of information here.
No Magic Pill
We do not have a magic pill, no one has, but we do know what you are going through. Most adults who are victims of child molestation experience similar symptoms. Of course they haven't had the exact same experience as you, it could have been worse, it could have been easier, but in their mind that makes no difference. They are traumatized just as you are.
What To Do
Find a good therapist if you need to, but take the advice on this site in choosing one, otherwise you could end up with worse problems than you have now. They can help you by talking to you, getting you through some of the problems you are facing, some of the feelings you are feeling.
Talking is one of the most important things needed for you to begin recovery. It doesn't matter how many times you talk about it, the more the better as it will reduce the power that the effects of your abuse have on you.
Think of it this way, your abuser wanted to make sure you kept quiet about the whole thing. Speaking about it takes power away from the abuser and returns that power to you. Writing it down can also help immensely.
There are times we just want sympathy for what we have been through, a shoulder to cry on, someone to tell us how brave we are for the abuse we endured. To just get it out there. You can do this by adding your story to this site and know that those who read it are listening, and the anonymity helps.
Books Can Be A Great Aid To Your Recovery
There are some books that are trash which can cause more damage than good. Others however can be of great benefit to you in your recovery process.
If you are a partner, you too need help in order to cope. It is far from easy dealing with or being the partner of a victim of sexual abuse. There are books specifically written for you to help you as a partner. It will help you cope with your own feelings and effects you are experiencing being the partner of a victim.
It will also give you a better understanding of the effects they are going through, as well as show them how supportive you are.
Remember, there is no magic pill. It is you that must put the effort in, nobody else can do it for you. So look through the menu and see which articles can help you.